MY FAQ

Here are some popular questions of me, with the answers.

1. Are you gay? Answer: I don't consider myself gay or straight. No-sexual is my joking term for my self, but I would be closer to asexual.

2. Do you date men or woman? Answer: I have dated men, but more as a friend. I am primarily attracted to woman, usually the sporty type or butch femme. If he is cute, I consider it.

3. What is Intersex? Answer: Intersex is a nicer and now more commonly used term for hermaphrodite. A person who has the physical characteristics of both male and female. There are many variations. I am an XX/XY or what some people call a mosaic.

4. Can you have sex with yourself? Answer: Of course, can't every one have sex with themselves? If you are thinking about having intercourse with myself, no. I have dominant male organs and dormant female organs.

5. What's it like to be Intersex? Answer: I can only answer for myself. Not finding out till I was in my early thirties and looking back, it was like knowing about both male and female, but not being a part of either one. Everything seemed to be a gray area for me. I relate more closely with female though.

6. Do you hate you penis or body? Answer: Unlike many of my transsexual friends, I do not hate my body, but would feel more comfortable if I matched my mind and soul more than what I do. I don't hate my genitals, I just don't realize there there. They don't matter much to me.

7. How can you be Intersex, you had a child? Answer: I thought the same thing to justify I was not. This is a myth, not all Intersex are sterile, even though I am now and it was a miracle that I have a child. She'll never know how rare she is.

8. Don't you have a choice? Answer: I don't think anyone has a choice in who they really are. It is not a lifestyle, it is my life. My lifestyle is that I live alone with a dog and cat, and like to ride motorcycles.

9. Do you plan to have surgery? Answer: Yes, but not for the same reasons as a transsexual. One of my main reasons is the pee normal. I have severe genital atrophy, which means my penis, for what it is, has moved up into the body cavity without help from me. A common condition for people with severe hormone imbalances. The other is to be more normal. My penis is virtually useless, so I could lead a more normal life with a vagina. I see myself more as a woman than a man anyway.

10. Do you go to work as a woman? Answer: I am pretty much androgynous at work, despite my hair being below my shoulders, pieced ears, and little to no body hair. They think I am a feminine gay man at work, but mostly because I eat lunch with a friend, who happens to be gay. I do plan to transition at work, but want to do it right, so as to clear a path for those who follow me at the same company.